HOW TO BE CONFIDENT

Confidence is the major weapon you can use in fighting any life-challenges, that's why a lot of people are often asking how it can be obtained. Let's face it, not everyone is born with the charisma and confidence. Some may even have a hard time knowing what they did wrong. If you're not born with a head start (looks, charisma, confidence, and talent) you can still be proud of yourself and improve in no time.

For your future improvements, it is a must that you must have confidence in who you are and what you can do. Here are the ways you can follow to be a confident human being:

1. DO NOT SELF PITY
Self pity can affect anyone. It may be because of a starting depression but don't give in. Self pity usually starts when the people you think are high class, start demolishing you with words. Then you start doubting yourself. When feeling this, try thinking that you are just another human being. You make mistakes, you make high expectations, and you make disappointments in your life. Those people who are destroying your character are just people whose characters were already destroyed. Trust me, you're as human as anyone else. True story.

2. STAND STRAIGHT
When you don't have confidence and you think you're having a hard time obtaining it, try fixing your posture. This action literally improves confidence. You'll feel a boost in your positive thoughts and you'll think clearer. People may also see you in a whole new light. Their actions towards you are controlled because they'll think you're not just another wimpy kid they can boss around, you're a man!

3. THINK FOR YOURSELF
Knowing that you are reading this, you must be pretty desperate in getting your confidence because it seems like everyone is not liking the things you do that are used to be liked, but don't try recreating the awesome things you did just for the sake of a small appreciation. At this point, you need to think of something that will make you feel proud about. Maybe learning to play an instrument, learning a new language, going out on the beach with your family. You must know yourself in this point. Know what you can do and improve those things. Don't cry over what you can't do because you'll lose the sight of what really matters. Trust me.

4. FEND OFF UNWANTED NEGATIVE REMARKS
While this sometimes challenges you, you need to know how to comfort yourself after each blow. When your classmates or workmates are trying to bring you down by insulting, pull off a cool face like it doesn't bother you and maybe you can joke around it. If it is just a joke however, don't make such a big deal. Those who joke around your weaknesses are either still mentally immature, or insensitive assholes. Just mind your own business, it's your life anyways.

5. DON'T BE AN ASSHOLE YOURSELF
When faced with numerous insults from time to time, you must probably turn into one of them in order to feel a little bit superior to others but are you really superior? A common scenario is a school bully. Usually, a school bully has a violent father who beats him/her up at home. The bully now bullies others because he/she knows it can't be done to his/her father.  In the end, the bully turns just like he's dad, a low-class man who's just next to a garbage at this point of his life. The point is, if you want confidence, get it from the compliments and visible achievements from the people who really mattered in your life. That confidence will be very much hard to waver off. True story.

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